Don’t step in the “should!”

Published February 11th, 2011 by Cael Sanderson

Don’t step in the “should!”

One of my favorite people in the world is Bonnie Epstein.  She has coined the phrase “Don’t should on yourself!”  It’s perfect and we would all benefit greatly from implementing her counsel into our lives.

It is very easy to beat yourself up over past experiences.  Don’t do it.  Be grateful for the learning experience and work to correct any mistakes. 

The “should of” disease will limit your growth.  “I should of” done this or that etc etc.  You can’t change the past.  Learn from it and move on.  It’s very easy and common to live our lives chin deep in “should’s.”  Everyone is an expert after the fact. I’m pretty sure a less then average person can look back after an incident and say I (or you) “should” have done something else.

People make mistakes.  You will make mistakes.  Just try to not make the same mistake again.  But even that can be difficult.  Progress comes in degress.  Difficult things get worked out through trial and error and most importantly through relentless determination.

 ”I have not failed.  I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”  – Thomas A. Edison


Focus on what you can do now and do it.  Let go of the “should’s.”

“You are responsible for everything you think, say, do and feel, but you are not responsible for how what think, do, say or feel makes other people think, say, do, or feel.”  -Bonnie Epstein

(I butchered the quote a little but you “should” (haha) be able to get the point.)

We are responsible for how we feel and respond to every incident in our lives.  We can choose to be positive and happy or we can choose to negative and sad.  The choice is yours. 

Don’t step in the “should!”  Choose Joy! and go kick some rear!