Ask Cael: Im having a tough decision to keep wrestling, but i wasnt good in all 3 years of wrestling so far and it got me angry.

Story Published Thursday, April 22nd, 2010

Raymond from NY: Im having a tough decision to keep wrestling, but i wasnt good in all 3 years of wrestling so far and it got me angry. I was wondering if I should keep training and go to wrestling camps like John Smith and see if i can amount to my full potential?

Cael: Hey Raymond,

Absolutely keep wrestling.

A quick quote for you from Thomas A. Edison  “Restlessness and discontent are the first necessities of progress.”

It’s ok to be frustrated, the important thing is what you do with that frustration.   If you were not having success and you were content, then that would be a problem.  Success will be a byproduct of your effort, commitment, and attitude.

You are at a crossroads where you need to make a decision.  Do you say, “aw, shucks, I’m no good and just quit.”  Or do you say “forget this losing stuff, I’m going to double down and totally commit to what I’m doing and get better!”  Do the latter.  You will be grateful down the road if you commit yourself to getting better and attacking that cause.

Don’t just “don’t quit” where you have really quit in your mind and you just go through the motions.  Commit in all areas.  Look for ways in your life to be more committed, to work harder, smarter, and sacrifice things that could be holding you back.  If you need more experience, get it.  Whether through camps, tournaments, traveling to where ever you need to practice, watching video online, etc but do it.

If you can’t get to a Penn State Camp, then I’d consider going to a John Smith camp-jk.

Don’t worry about what you aren’t doing in your career, worry about what you can do!

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