Ask Cael: I donâ€™t feel at my best right now, and im scared… ill never tell anyone but states are in a month and i felt better when it was just summer wrestling. How do I get my head right?Story Published Wednesday, January 27th, 2010
question: Itâ€™s my senior year, I was a three sport varsity athlete. i quit baseball and football. During last spring during a baseball practice I couldnt stop thinking about wrestling. Itâ€™s all I wanted to do. I said to myself “I’m a state champion, I’m gonna do it” that very day I quit. I hit the room for hours in the summer anything and everything to do with wrestling I did. I made a commitment to myself to not be satisfied to strive, give everything. Iâ€™ve beat top ranked guys in the state all summer… its season now and I fell a little off track mentally for awhile but I know Iâ€™m mentally there again. States are in a months and for me to continue wrestling (in college) i have to win states bottom line, I donâ€™t feel the confidence I felt this summer though, I knew I could beat anyone who stepped out on the mat with me, now Iâ€™ve began to question my ability as a wrestler even though I know im that good. Everyone has doubts, even you had to, what did you do with your doubts… how did you mentally put yourself above them? Honestly I donâ€™t feel at my best right now, and im scared… ill never tell anyone but states are in a month and i felt better when it was just summer wrestling. How do I get my head right?
Sport Psychologist Marty Martinez said it best, he said something like, â€śyou arenâ€™t always in control of the first thought that pops into your mind, but you are in control of the second thought.â€ť That means YOU decide what to do with your negative thought. It is your choice.
It helps to have a programmed answer ready for the negative thoughts. I used to tell myself, â€śI am ready.â€ť So every time a negative thought crept into my mind I quickly replaced it with my programmed response.
That is a game and a battle you fight until you are done competing.
Consider these facts. You are better now then you have ever been. You are more experienced now then you have ever been. You are more prepared then you ever have been.
With those facts, have fun and attack your goals.
Here are a couple good quotes for you:
â€śOur doubts are traitors,
â€śHe who worries about calamities suffers them twice over.â€ť
Latest Questions in the Ask Cael Archive- question: Do you think starting wrestling at a young age is helpful/important?
- I have been a head coach for only 2 years, so I cannot expect overnight success but This school has so much potential. Please help me with pointers on this problem.
- A kid that I wrestle in practice won’t let me tie up with him. I beat him but how do i get a hold on him when he always circles out when I try to tie up with him.
- Everyone around here almost automatically defers when they win the choice to start the second period. I believe that is counter-productive and want my boys to take bottom every time.
- I have two boys who love to wrestle, what do you think is the best way to bring them up the ranks, without “burning them out?” And what would be some good motivational ideas?
- I have watched videos of you in college where you put your head to the mat. Are you gaining an advantage by using your head on the mat?
- Can you explain why college wrestlers defense is so different?
- What is your philosophy regarding Team v. Individual in the sport of wrestling and how do you communicate this philosophy?
- What causes passivity? How can we overcome it?
- I graduated 2 years ago and recently got a coaching job coaching my old middle school team. What is some advice you could give me to help me get moves across to my team without skipping important details?
Check Out Doug Seus!